U.F. SHAH

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I understand there's a difference in opinion about how to post re #blackouttuesday However I have seen a step in the right direction. Seeing huge corporations and people in positions of influence post a black screen may not fulfil the purpose intended, but it does say something. It says they're here. They're present. They're listening. Anyone who has ever been oppressed will know the pain of being voiceless. Now, the voice is being carried by those who have the power and the resources to effect change. No matter how small, every step in the right direction is progress. It has shown how the world can come together for a cause. The millions of posts are a reflection of that. Whether or not direct change can be effected by those who choose to speak- the fact they're choosing to speak is what matters. One day we won't need to tell people racism is wrong, they'll just know!! @nike @reebok @narsissist @asos @dior @sainsburys @maccosmetics @zara @louisvuitton #blackouttuesday

*From daughter to daughter in law* ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When I was faced with new challenges as a newly wed, I would question my ability to deal with them. I recall thinking, I've lived over 3 hours away from home for university, I've travelled to over 18 countries and I've worked as a legal professional for years but nothing prepared me for this. Everything was political. I remember thinking I've spent my life away from all forms of cultural politics yet I've landed right in the middle of them. The transition from being a daughter to a daughter in law is that society will perceive you differently. As a daughter you're mollycoddled by your parents. Nothing is expected of you. Yet the moment you're a daughter in law all the aunties expect you to run a household, cook a banquet, cater to your husband and attend every event known to mankind. For someone who had barely done any of this pre marriage, it came as a huge shock to the system. I was outspoken as the youngest sibling and child at home and I always got away with my twisted humour which others found endearing. But all of a sudden the tables turned and I was one of the older daughter in laws. Everything I said now, had the possibility of being put under a microscope. How is one to go from being the youngest child, to one of the eldest members of a household. It was a HUGE transition. All the things I was now expected to do were the things previously done by my elder sisters and mum and I never ever had to do. So there were tears, there were internal tantrums, and there was real heartbreak. I felt I'd stepped into a world I was a complete stranger to. I recall visiting home and speaking to the neighbourhood aunties and fondly listening to stories of their early days of marriage. I had never related to them in the way I could now. I was mesmerised at how despite decades having passed, I felt exactly the same as they once did. The same feeling of loss, confusion and heartbreak. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The transition between the two worlds is truly bittersweet. But for all you newly weds, reach out and speak to other women. You'll be amazed at how much support they can offer you. If anything I'm always a message away :) #newlyweds

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