Hi Harmony Hustlers, this post will help you rebuild confidence in yourself, especially if recent events have shaken your self-assurance.
If you’ve found your way to this post, you may be feeling like your confidence has taken a hit. Like you’re not capable of achieving anything, and that everyone else just seems more capable and confident, while you’re stuck feeling inadequate?
I totally understand how overwhelming that can be. If that’s where you’re at, know that you’re not alone. Confidence is something we all grapple with from time to time, and it’s totally okay to seek out ways to rebuild confidence.
If you’re ready to turn things around and reclaim your self-belief, I’ve got some practical steps to help you rebuild and strengthen your confidence. This guide is designed to help you get back on track and feel empowered to chase your goals. Let’s tackle this together and get you back to feeling like your best self.
What is confidence, and why is it so crucial in our lives?
Confidence is all about believing in yourself and your abilities. It’s that inner voice that says, “I’ve got this,” even if you don’t “got this.”
Think of confidence as a little spark inside you. When you’re feeling confident, it’s as though that spark lights up and makes everything seem a bit easier. It doesn’t just help you feel good about yourself; it also changes how you handle things in your life.
Let’s say your confidence has taken a hit and someone asks you to take on a new project or challenge. You may hesitate and say no. That’s because low confidence can make you question your abilities and miss out on opportunities that could be really good for you.
But when you’re confident, that spark shines bright, and you’re more likely to dive into new challenges with a positive attitude.
Confidence can really shape your path and make a big difference in where you end up. That’s why it’s so important to work on building it back up. It can open doors, boost how you feel about yourself, and help you live a more fulfilling life.
So let’s focus on finding ways to rebuild that confidence.
7 Daily Habits and Practices to Rebuild Confidence
- Acknowledge, Accept & Validate Your Feelings
- Boost your mindset to rebuild confidence
- Take Care of Your Physical Health
- Do what makes you feel good
- Rebuild confidence by Addressing and Overcoming Insecurities
- Build a badass daily routine to rebuild confidence
- Spend time with your ‘Unconditionals’
1. Acknowledge, Accept & Validate Your Feelings
In order to rebuild confidence, it’s really important to recognise, accept and validate feelings of low self confidence. It’s perfectly okay to admit when you’re not feeling your best—sometimes just acknowledging how you feel can make a big difference.
If you find yourself relying on others to validate you, remember that your true worth isn’t determined by external approval.
You have the power to recognise and affirm your own value.
Validate your own feelings and achievements. This practice of self-recognition helps build a stronger, more resilient sense of confidence.
Also take the time to reflect on your past successes and the hurdles you’ve overcome, and use these reflections as reminders of your strength and potential. What you’re feeling now is just a moment, it is not a reflection of your true abilities. You’ve shown your strength before, and you can absolutely do it again.
2. Boost your mindset to rebuild confidence
You’ve probably heard the phrase “Be Positive” countless times, but let’s face it, that’s pretty vague and doesn’t always feel helpful. So, let’s break it down and explore practical steps to nurture a positive mindset, helping you rebuild confidence in yourself.
For starters, you can begin by incorporating positive affirmations and gratitude practices into your daily routine. I know, if you’re skeptical about affirmations, you might be thinking they sound a bit cliché. But hear me out—sometimes, trying something new can make a big difference. I used to be a skeptic myself, until a therapist explained something that really resonated with me.
When we replay negative experiences or worries in our minds, our brain often reacts as if we’re actually facing those threats. It’s like reliving the stress of a serious car accident even when it’s just a memory. This can of course take a toll on our well-being. So instead, by focusing on positive affirmations and things we’re grateful for, we can shift our mental state and reduce that unnecessary stress.
Here’s one to get you started:
“I am confident in my abilities and trust myself to handle whatever comes my way. I am worthy of success and believe in my own strength. Each day, I grow more self-assured and capable, and I embrace my potential with positivity and self-love.”
Essentially you’re giving yourself a pep talk every day. Trust me. Don’t knock it until you try it.
3. Take care of your Physical Health
I am fully aware that I might sound a little hypocritical preaching this step, especially since I know it’s not always easy, particularly if you’ve never managed to build healthy habits from an early age. But even though it might seem basic, when it comes to building confidence and feeling good about ourselves, how we treat our bodies can make a huge difference.
To rebuild confidence start by trying to include some regular exercise in your daily routine. It doesn’t have to be anything intense; even a short walk or a quick workout can work wonders. Exercise is not just great for your body, but it also helps clear your mind and lift your spirits. I find going for a short walk (even if it’s just for 10 minutes) first thing in the morning, especially when the sun is out, really boosts my mood.
Also, focus on maintaining a balanced diet and making sure you’re getting enough sleep. There is so much information out there on how you can improve your diet and your sleep. Personally I tried so many different ways to manage my diet and I’ve found that intermittent fasting works best for me. It makes me feel better – I’m more energised, my body feels better and I sleep exceptionally well. It’s amazing how much better you can feel when your body is well-rested and properly nourished. Don’t overthink it, just listen to your body. Focus on what makes you feel good versus what doesn’t.
Remember, there’s a strong link between how you feel physically and how you feel mentally. Taking care of your body is a big step toward improving your mental well-being and confidence. So, take a little time each day to nurture yourself, and notice how it starts to positively impact your overall mood and self-esteem.
4. Do what makes you feel good
Make sure you’re doing things that help you feel good about who you are. Embracing your unique talents and passions is key to boosting your confidence. You have special abilities and qualities that are yours alone, and when you actively engage in what you love and are good at, it reinforces your sense of self-worth and fulfillment.
There’s too much at stake when you fail to celebrate your individuality and recognise the value you bring to the world.
A few years ago, my confidence took a huge hit. I stopped doing the things that brought me joy. All around me, I saw busyness being equated to productivity, and so I felt I had no time for leisurely pursuits like reading or writing (two of my fave things to do). In hindsight that was a huge mistake. The things I loved doing formed a huge part of my personality and by stopping these activities, I was losing parts of me. I have learned that when we let go of the things we love, we lose the essence of who we are.
As much as I do not wish burnout on anyone, it really forces you to reassess your life choices. My experience led me to the realisation that I needed to do more of what I loved. So I picked up that book that had been sitting on my bookshelf for years and I started reading. It’s safe to say that I got wholly lost in the world of fiction, and I refuse to turn back. Since I picked up that book, I have read almost 50 books in total. Embracing reading has brought me immense joy and boosted my confidence, showing me I could still do the things I need to do, alongside doing the things I’d like to do. It’s all about finding that perfect balance.
So take my advice and take time for what makes you happy and let it build your confidence and joy. True fulfillment comes from doing what you love, and when you’re truly content, your confidence radiates effortlessly.
5. Rebuild confidence by Addressing and Overcoming Insecurities
If you’ve been feeling insecure lately, it’s important to recognise that insecurity and low confidence can be caused by a number of things. For example, failing at something in the past, rejection from a person, employer, or community, harsh criticism from others, major life changes like job transitions or relationship shifts, and even societal expectations can all contribute to feelings of insecurity.
These triggers can vary from person to person, but they often create doubts about your abilities, worth, or appearance. Remember, you can’t control others, but you can control how you respond. Just because one person didn’t respond well doesn’t mean you should give up on connecting with others. Keep in mind, how someone behaves says more about them than it does about you.
Sometimes, when we’re faced with challenges or hurt, our confidence naturally takes a hit. Imagine that you are a shy person and as a shy person you decide to step out of your comfort zone to make new friends. At your next social event, you approach someone, but they reject you. It’s completely normal for this to shake your confidence.
However, what happens next is crucial. You can either let this experience fuel a negative thought loop—thinking things like “nobody likes me” or “I’m not good enough”—which might stop you from trying again, or you can choose to view it as a single moment rather than a reflection of your worth.
It’s important to keep challenging yourself and pushing through testing moments. Each time you face a setback, remind yourself it’s an opportunity to grow. By continuing to put yourself out there, you’re pushing back on any self-limiting beliefs and you’re developing your confidence.
Take care of yourself and trust in your own strength to navigate whatever comes your way. Equip yourself with the right tools, and remember, as long as you have them, you’ll be just fine.
6. Build a badass daily routine to rebuild confidence
Starting each day with a badass confidence-boosting routine can set a positive tone for everything that follows. It’s like giving yourself a little pep talk before you face the day. Here’s a simple example of how you might structure your morning routine:
- Morning Reading/listening: Begin your day by reading a few pages from a motivational book or listening to an inspiring podcast. This will help shift your mindset to a positive and empowered state- the perfect way to start your day. Not only that, but you’ll also find yourself with more to talk about with others, and this new knowledge will give your confidence a nice boost.
- Set Daily Goals: Take a few minutes to jot down what you want to achieve for the day. Set clear, manageable goals that give you a sense of purpose and direction. I’m a huge fan of setting daily goals. It means I spend less time wondering about what I need to get done, and instead, I can actually get it done.
- Reflect on Achievements: Spend a moment reflecting on what you’ve accomplished recently, no matter how small. When you do this you reinforce your sense of self-worth and capability.
Your morning might start with a cup of tea and a few pages from an uplifting book, followed by writing down three small goals for the day. Before you dive into work, take a brief pause to acknowledge something you’ve done well recently, whether it’s finishing a project or simply sticking to your routine.
This little routine doesn’t have to take long, but it can make a big difference in how you feel and approach your day. It’s all about starting your day on a positive note and reminding yourself of your strengths and potential.
If you’re after specific tips to boost your confidence at work, take a look at this post ’10 Daily Habits to skyrocket your Confidence at work.’
7. Spend time with your ‘Unconditionals’
“Surround yourself with people whose eyes light up when they see you coming” – Andre De Shields. This is my absolute favorite piece of advice. Nothing beats spending time with those who love you unconditionally. These people are not only extremely special but they are rare.
Looking back at my own past struggles with confidence, I realised that throughout that period, I hadn’t been spending enough time with my ‘unconditionals’ (I just coined this term whilst typing this tip and I quite like it! I think it captures the essence of these relationships really well). These are the people who uplift you and remind you of your worth. When I think of the person whose entire face lights up on seeing me-it’s my father’s. I know I’m lucky to have such a special connection with him. His reactions of unfiltered joy are so pure and they remind me of my inherent worth and the love that surrounds me.
When you’re working to rebuild confidence in yourself, try to limit interactions with those who bring negativity into your life, as their presence can weigh heavily on your spirit. Instead, focus on those who love and support you. The space that this creates is beautiful – not only does it build your confidence and provide comfort, but it also helps you thrive.
When you have such genuine support and love in your life, it’s important to embrace it fully. Your unconditionals’ unwavering affection has the power to heal and inspire, so why not cherish and surround yourself with your loved ones?”
While some of us are blessed with close-knit circles whose eyes light up when they see us, I understand that not everyone has that experience. If you’re feeling alone, know that there are caring communities and connections waiting to be found. Building these relationships takes time, but you deserve to find and nurture bonds where you feel truly seen and valued.
Rebuild confidence into your life
Rebuilding confidence isn’t a one-time thing. You have to work on it every single day, and every positive experience will boost your confidence along the way. If you meet some hurdles, remember to be patient and kind to yourself. Trust yourself to have the strength to overcome the challenges you face. When you start trusting yourself, it’ll bring you closer to being the confident and empowered person you want to be. Remember that you deserve to live a life filled with joy, self-love, and fulfillment.
Thank you for taking the time to read this post. It means the world to me. If you have any experiences or tips to share, please make sure to leave a comment below. Also don’t forget to subscribe so you’re always in the loop. Here’s to rebuilding confidence and living your best life!